1. Make the Wife as head of the Household
Abu Bakrah, he said: "the Prophet said: ' nothing. will be lucky a clan headed by a woman. ' "(HR. Ahmad n 0.19612 CD, Bukhari, Tirmidhi, and Nasa'i)
The Apostle says that a House (including her husband) will never gain glory or fortune when you make a woman (including his wife) became a leader. the form of this is the loss of beruntungan the authority of the husband giving the opportunity to the wife applies as he pleases in arranging household regardless of husband's opinion (widely known as IPSTI term = ties The Husband Scared the wife). told the wife making a living and manage household affairs including making the wife as the husband a leader. doing so would mean melaknggar conditions set out Allah and his Messenger. several factors pentebab iniquity:
the husband of a slacker who is reluctant to shoulder the responsibility as the head of the household.
the husband has been uzdur so that could not run the tasks and obligations as the leader of the household
the husband is too busy with his job and his hobby so it can't take care of the interests of the family other than just membaeri spending money. the responsibility of the husband is not only a living, but members should also guide the isri and the kids in the construction of akhlaq, aqidah, and guidelines for a day day.
given the magnitude of the responsibility and consequences arising due to this perfidy, the husband is obligated to avoid URtersebut.dan deeds soon apologized against his wife and bertaobat to God Almighty.
2. Abandon Shopping Wife
From ' Abdullah ibn ' Amr, he said: Rasululluah said: ' someone reasonably perceived sinner when he laid waste to the shopping responsibilities. ' " (HR. Abu Dawood, no. 1442 CD, Muslim, Ahmad, and Thabarani)
the Hadith explained that the husband abandon his wife and children shopping means sinning. an employer who menelanrtarkan the salary of its employees so the record could not meet his needs are also said to be sinful. So is a leader who laid waste to the needs of his people, then he sinned. Already the Statute if the husband should give to wife shopping missal for sustenance, clothing, etc. in accordance with the level of her abilities. If not then the husband had been rebellious against his wife.
From "Asyah ra, hind Bint Utbah that once said: ' O Messenger of Allaah, verily, Abu Sufyan was the person who is stingy and won't give me enough shopping to me and my son, so I was forced to take off her unbeknownst to her." He besabda: ' Take just enough for yourself and your son with reasonable. " (HR. Bukhaari. 4945 CD, Muslim, Nasa'i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah, Ahmad, and Darimi)
This Hadith explained that the wife was given a living did not suit his needs but have enough possessions then allowed himself the treasure without the knowledge of her husband simply to satisfy his needs and his son are reasonable. Husbands who do iniquity it may be caused by:
The husband irritated against wasteful attitude to his wife, he thinks that the wife could not be set up properly so that the husband's financial conduct such acts. This is not true, if the husband sees his wife wastes no words, actions by ignoring wife shopping but with other means if notwithstanding the responsibility of husband against wife
Husband got hell, so forget going to his wife and family
The husband was more worried about his favorite of his own (selfish)
His wife had her own income so the husband assumed no longer need to give their own spending money
The husband was more worried about his brother. This is really a big mistake because the people who are over compulsory of his parents, his wife and son, not his brother.
The husband should realize that as long as he laid waste to the shopping's wife, during it he sinned to his wife. Therefore he was obliged to apologize to his wife and subsequently bertaubet to God. He was not aware that mandatory membelanjai wife included disobeys Allah SWT. His sin not only to his wife but also against the Almighty God.
3. Do not give a safe place to live
"Left in them (the wife) in place of you live according to the ability of you and you shall not vex them to narrow your (heart) them. If they (the wife in the thalaq) that are pregnant, give it to them in order until they give birth ... " (QS. ATH-Thalaaq (65): 6)
God explains to the husband who divorces his wife must still provide shelter for him during this time and she should not reduce spending his wife or throw her out of the House because of his heart trouble or want to force her to return the treasure was ever given to him or any other purpose. If his ex-wife who is still in the time she just had to get the right nafkan and a good place to live, then more and more compulsory again to consort to get better treatment than that.
4. not Pay Dowry
From Maimun Al-Kurady, from his father, he said: "I heard the Prophet peace be upon him. (said): ' whoever male who married a woman with the dowry little or a lot, but in his heart mean to fulfilled what would not be the right woman, means he has ignored it. If he dies before that fulfilled the right woman, kelakpada the day of Resurrection he will meet with God as fasiq ... ' " (HR. Thabarani, Al-Awsat thy jamul, II/237/1851 CD)
According to this Hadith, a husband who has set the dowry for his wife, but then not paying a promised dowry to his wife, meaning trick or mengicuh his wife. If he does not have the dowry he can be mengutang to his wife. In The QS. Al-Baqara (2): 237 explained that "If you guys divorcing wife wife you guys before you mix with them, even though you already determine maharnya, bayarlah half of the dowry that had you guys specify that, unless the wife wife you guys it has been forgiven or excused by the people who hold the bonds of marriage. Granting pardon you guys it is closer to taqwa. Do not forget the kindness among fellow y'all. Allah is seer of what ye do. ".
The husband owes the dowry to his wife with the intention of not going to erase the debt should be mempertanggung jawabkannya in the hereafter. The husband does not pay off maharnya may well be caused by factors:
The husband contended that the dowry was already no longer need he gave because now it becomes one family, thinks there is no calculation of debt accounts for people who are already bound in the relationship the husband and wife.
His wife never charge so the husband assumes his wife no longer need it
Whatever the reason that makes the base for the husband do iniquity is still not justified. Because all sorts of mandatory debt repaid by either husband or wife and to erase the debt need not wait for a collectable.
5. Pull the dowry Without means to my Wife
(20) "If you guys (the husband) would like to replace the wife with another wife, are you guys had given one of them a dowry that numerous, do not take it up again at all. Do you guys you guys will pick it up again with a cunning way way and Sin are real? (21) How you guys will pick it up again, while the other one with you guys already mixed each other (as husband and wife) and they (wife wife you guys) has made a firm agreement with you guys, "(QS. An-Nisaa ' (4): 20-21)
The verse with a husband denouncing memnta were killed or pull back the dowry given to his wife, either partially or entirely. The purpose of islam sets the dowry in marriage is to respect the position of the wife at the time before islam does not get the right to own and control any wealth, both of her parents or her husband. In addition, the dowry was a woman who had taken the power given by islam to determine the choice of top male that will be mempersuntingnya. the factors that caused the husband do this action may be caused by:
The husband was upset over the treatment and service his wife who he deems incompatible with harapanya. in this way is clearly wrong because the husband should be advised by means of predefined ways in Islamic Shari'ah
The husband wanted to get working capital. If this happens the husband should ask permission to his wife and if wife refuse then shouldn't take it by force
The husband wants to get married again. this Act also is not true because suamin must know that his wife also have a right not to dimadu
The husband who already draw maharnya should immediately apologize to istriya and begging forgiveness to God Almighty.
6. Breaking the terms of his wife
"o believers, be fulfilled promise promise you guys." (QS. Al--(5): 1)
"From ' Uqbah bin ' Amir ra," he said, "the Prophet Muhammad said: ' palling Terms is entitled to satisfy you guys is the requirement that made all of you halal berwenggama with you guys. '" (HR. Bukhari No. 2520 CD, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah, Ahmad and Darimi)
God commanded the believers to fulfill the promise he made with those people involved with the agreement. In the Hadith of Prophet Muhammad explains the husband and wife should fulfill the Covenant that he had made such agreement, even the most fitting is filled with the best of the good news. Islam justifies the granting of terms proposed by the parties to the wife and family istriselama does not conflict with Islamic jurisprudence to prospective husbands.
7. Ignore the Sexual Needs of wife
From anas ra, Prophet saw said: "If someone among you guys had intercourse with his wife, let him do so with great solemnity. Further, when he had completed his needs (get satisfaction) before his wife gets satisfaction, he shall not hurry hurry (revoke his Dick) until his wife finds satisfaction. " (Narrated ' Abdur Razzaq and Abu Ya'la, Jami ' Kabir II/19/1233)
Rasullullah said: "Let not all time someone among you guys menyenggamai his wife like a hewanbersenggama, but be there introduction between them. ' anyone asks" what is the introduction to that? " He said, "kissing and greeting (romantic)." (Narrated By Abu Al-Shaykh)
Meet the needs of the wife that is sexual pursuit so that wife get satisfaction as a husband. However the way (drinking jamu kek, kek, sports drink strong drug make-up atow kek to rot) anyway the husband should try and pay attention to the sexual needs of his wife and should not ignore it because it would mean breaking the commandments of the religion.
8. Menyenggamai Wife While Menstruating
"they ask you about the menstruating menstruating, say: ' it is a shit. ' Therefore, let you guys keep menstruating at the time women's dirindari and do not approach them before their purity. If they had, their campurilah place God commanded to you guys. Verily Allah loves the people repent and likes people who purify themselves. " (QS Al-Baqarah (2): 222)
Women who are menstruating are in a State of pain. the intent is experiencing circumstances that make his health is impaired due to dirty blood discharge from the womb ... When a menstruating wife menyenggamai is an act that is prohibited because it is similar to hurt him and is an act that interferes with his salvation. Called dirty blood because it contained the seeds of disease if forced intercourse sekseual baketri the bacteria not only infect belongs to the wife but also belongs to the male also stricken. Anyway what did not feel disgust what? in addition woman who is in a State of parturition uga prohibited to disetubuhikaren according to the inside of the tool vitalnya injured so it does not allow to have intercourse. Preclude in life is not impossible husband to perform this action. This may be done because:
The husband couldn't resist (hypersex) not to mix with his wife
The husband wanted to do family planning. do KB may be but not this way.
Truly a sinner for the husband who did the indecency that hurt him and his wife.
9. Menyenggamai Wife via Duburnya
From Ibn Abbas, he said: ' Umar (Ibn Khaththa) came to Muhammad peace be upon him, he said: ' Yes Rosullullah, I have been destroyed. ' He asks: ' what cause ye perish? ' He answered: ' last night I was flipping my position. ' but he didn't answer for a moment, then down to Muhammad peace be upon him verses. ' you guys wife is lading for you guys, then go to your lading you guys where and whenever you guys want this. ' (he said ' Go from front or rear, but shun the rectum and when menstruating. ' " (H.r. Tarmidzi No. 2882)
The deeds of menyenggamai wife on duburnya is an action which destroys the muslim personal srtiap muslim husband compulsory release, as this is the action of wrath by God and is a rebellion against the wife.
10. Spread the Secret relationship with Wife
The relationship of husband and wife must be carried out at the places that are not visible to others, even his voice sounds may not be any others. The husband and wife to safeguarding the honour of each let alone before anyone else. Suai who spread the secrets himself and his wife when had sexual intercourse means have done deeds of sin against the wife.
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