"Religion is the advice". We asked: "for whom o Messenger of Allaah?" The Prophet replied: "for God, his book, his Messenger, for leaders of the Muslims and to Muslims in General." (Narrated By Muslim)
It's true, a lot of the advice will bring benefits in the advice of science drawn from the Qur'an and as-Sunnah. However, a piece of advice that is not based on Science, thus will bring havoc and destruction, because in fact it is not advice, but rather the whisperings and the misgivings of the devil. The thing is, whether an advice should only be performed by men only and not possible by women?
The following story shows, that can give the womenfolk in giving advice and amar ma'ruf nahi it in accordance with their abilities. May be useful. Allahul-Muwaffiq.
Once upon
Imam Malik narrated a tale of Allaah in al-Muwatta ' ', from Yahya ibn Sa'id al-Qasim ibn Muhammad, that he said, "one of my wife's death, and then Muhammad bin Kab al-Qurazhi mendatangiku for bertakziah (the death of) my wife, and then he says,
' Indeed, formerly in the age of the children of Israel there was a man that faqih, ' alim, abid, and a mujtahid. He has a wife who he greatly admired and loved. Then meninggallah his wife, so that makes her heart is very sad. She felt very reluctantly accepted the fact that, to the extent that he locked the door, barricaded themselves in the House, and cut off all relations with human beings, so that no one may see her.
Then there was a woman who heard the news of dodgy, then he comes home The Alim seraya told the people who were there,
"Really, I really need a fatwa from him and I don't want to raise the issue, but I got to meet directly with him."
However, everyone no one took him seriously. Nevertheless, he remained standing at the door waiting for the discharge of The Pious. He said, ' really, I really want to listen to fatwanya. And then, finally, there is one cry out,
' (O The Alim) seriously here there is a woman very wants the fatwamu. '
And the woman was added, ' and I do not want mengutarakannya but should meet directly with them without any intermediaries. ' However, people kept did not relent. Nevertheless, she remained standing in front of the door and does not want to go.
Finally, The Alim replied, ' Let him in. '
Then, the woman comes in and says,
"Really, I come to you for a pemasalahan. '
The Alim replied, "If pemasalahanmu? '
Women expose, "truly, I have borrowed jewelry to one of tetanggaku and I always wear it until a couple of days, then one when they send someone to me to take back the goods to him? '
Then, the Alim replied, ' Yes, for the sake of God, you have to give it to them. '
Then the woman denies, ' but, I have been wearing it since a long time ago. '
The Alim replied, ' but they are entitled to take back the goods that have been loaned to you, though they have since a long time. '
Then, the woman says, ' O The Alim, may Allaah merahmatimu. Why do you also feel a heavy heart to restore something that's been deposited Allaah unto you, then Allaah wants to take back his deposit, he further reserves the right to take it from you? '
Then, with that greeting tersadarlah The Pious over events that were on him, and Allaah has made the word the woman may be useful and evocative of his heart.
The above story was narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta ' of ' in al-Jana'iz Chapter Jami'ul-Hasabah fil-Mushibah (163).
Sheikh Shuaib al-Arna'uth in tahqeeq he of the Jami'ul-Usul (6/339) said, "the story of the above come to Muhammad Ibn Kab al-Qurazhi with a Saheeh isnaad."
Ibrah
The disaster was a test from Allaah, as a measure of the faith of the servant. Allaah says,
وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُمْ حَتَّى نَعْلَمَ الْمُجَاهِدِينَ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّابِرِينَ وَنَبْلُوَا أَخْبَارِكُمْ
"And indeed, we really will test you in order that We know the people who strive and be patient among you, and so we declare (good bad) things ihwalmu." (Qs. Muhammad: 31).
Patience is needed when we are hit by natural disasters. The obligation of every muslim when it gets disaster is expect to AllahSubhanahu wa Ta'ala reward and dressing better. Rasulullahshallallahu ' alaihi wa sallam taught us the prayer when reading were suffering from an accident. He says,
مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمٍ تُصِيْبُهُ مُصِيْبَةٌ فَيَقُوْلُ مَا أَمَرَهُ اللهُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ أَجِرْنِي مِصِيْبَتِي وَأَخْلِفُ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلاَّ أَخْلَفَ اللهُ لَهُ خَيْرًا مِنْهَا
"It is not the muslim countries that experience a disaster then read as commanded by God (i.e.), ' Verily We belong to Allaah and to him were the US will be returned. O God, give the reward at the disaster that hit me and give a better change of him ' but Allaah will give him the dressing better than before. ' " (Season 4/475, at-tirmidhi, 11/417, Ahmad, 33/82).
Thus, it is very wonderful things that happened to a muslim. As all things on him – in the form of pleasure or distress, spaciousness as well as natural disasters — all of which is good for him, as the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam have characterized in his sayings,
عَجَبًا لأَمْرِ الْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ أَمْرَهُ كُلَّهُ خَيْرٌ وَلَيْسَ ذَاكَ لأَحَدٍ لِلْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ أَصَابَتْهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ ضَرَّاءُ صَبَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ
"Really surprising things (Affairs) of Muslims, all things (Affairs) of his good and it does not happen except in self a muslim. If a given grateful he pleasure then it's good for him. And when he had trouble tolerating overwritten then it's good for him. " (Narrated by Muslim, 14/280).
It weighs trials often make man forgot the fate AllahSubhanahu wa Ta'ala. We all belong to Allaah wa Ta'aladengan to him, we shall also be returned. However, most people do not realize this, so they do the acts forbidden by religious law. Their protracted grief, thereby neglecting herself. In fact, sometimes they were screaming hysterically, banging face, tearing the shirt, and made remarks that are forbidden by religious law, whereas the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam said,
لَيْسَ مِنَّا مَنْ لَطَمَ الْخُدُودَ وَشَقَّ الْجُيُوبَ وَدَعَا بِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ
"Not including the US a menampar-nampar cheeks, tear up clothes, and cried a cry-cry Gentiles." (Narrated by Al-bukhaari, 5/41, at-tirmidhi 4/119, Al-nisaa'i, 6/408).
Grieving is a naturalness due mainly to be left by the well-loved orenga. However, do not let the sadness beyond the limits of the dibolehkah. The Messenger of Allaah ' alaihi wasallam said:
إِنَّ الْعَيْنَ تَدْمَعَ وَالْقَلْبَ يَحْزَنُ وَلاَ نَقُولُ إِلاَّ مَا يُرْضِي رَبَّنَا
"Eyes of the heart may be crying, grieving, but we don't speak unless only (with words) which approves by Rabb (Lord – ed.)." (Narrated by al-bukhaari: 5/57).
Indeed, the handlebars is very shrewd in finding loopholes to plunges of Adam. This is where the importance of advising each other in truth and patience. Allaah says,
وَذَكِّرْ فَإِنَّ الذِّكْرَى تَنفَعُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ
"And keep on giving a warning, because actually the warning it is beneficial for people of faith." (Qs. adz-Dzariyat: 55).
It's just that, the way we give advice should really be noticed. How to advise a waliyul-amri (ruler) is different by way of advising people. Advising parents in contrast to how to advise our own children. Similarly, how to advise an alim who has influence and the greeting heard by society should vary with the way we advise a layman. Be counseled in ways that are gentle, with words that are smooth, and not performed in front of audiences, as the woman had done. Hopefully they will wake up and get back on the right path. Because, a pious man who is not even a free from error. They were ordinary human beings that many make mistakes. The Messenger of Allaah ' alaihi wa sallam said,
كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاؤٌ وَخَيْرُ الْخَطَّائِيْنَ التَّوَّابُونَ
"Every child of Adam's many errors, and the best people that mistakes are who repented from it." (Narrated by Al-tirmidhi, 9/59, Ibn maajah, 2/302, Ahmad, 26/123).
The Pearl Story
Some important pejalaran we can auto summary of the story above is:
1. Sometimes an AHL ilmi can forget and neglect of science that he teaches. As the story of The pious faqīh above, he has forgotten what he has always been taught about wajibnya a to remain patient in affected.
2. Obligations for the people of ra'yi and anyone who has an understanding, let this remind his brother of things that sometimes terlalaikan it. And this is not limited to only done by men, but women also when does have the ability in it. Of course it is done when it is safe from slander and don't violate the ban and is still forbidden Allaah, as has been done by women in the above story that can bring back an alim who are heedless of him that great event.
3. Knowledge and understanding are cornerstones that becomes the equation between men and women, because the science was not the right monopolized by men only. Any eligible women attended the science and understanding. In fact, the incidents that happened to a woman claiming to be more mengilmui laws of the Shari'a. Thaharoh (purity), educate the young, and others are problems that desperately need the science and real understanding.
4. The importance of creating a permisalan in explaining a problem, because an example can illustrate a problem more clearly. And this is exactly the method of Qur'an in explaining a problem. Consider the verse Allaah which explains about the sentences and sentences of unity of infidelity. Allaah says,
أَلَمْ تَرَ كَيْفَ ضَرَبَ اللهُ مَثَلاً كَلِمَةً طَيِّبَةً كَشَجَرَةٍ طَيِّبَةٍ أَصْلُهَا ثَابِتٌ وَفَرْعُهَا فِي السَّمَآءِ {24} تُؤْتِي أُكُلَهَا كُلَّ حِينٍ بِإِذْنِ رَبِّهَا وَيَضْرِبُ اللهُ اْلأَمْثَالَ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ {25} وَمَثَلُ كَلِمَةٍ خَبِيثَةٍ كَشَجَرَةٍ خَبِيثَةٍ اجْتُثَّتْ مِن فَوْقِ اْلأَرْضِ مَالَهَا مِن قَرَارٍ
"Have you not noticed how God has made such good sentences parable of good tree, the roots are firm and its branches (soars) into the sky, the trees that give fruit in every season with the express permission of the Lord – her. God making parables for mankind that they should always remember: bad sentences and parables as a bad tree, which has been revoked by its roots from the surface of the Earth; can't be fixed (upright) one bit. " (Qs. Ibrahim: 24-26).
5. Endeared human by mentioning the comforting tidings earlier people and stories is loaded with valuable lessons. Especially when the stories relevant to the circumstances of the person being given the advice, because such methods will be more evocative of his heart and was aware of his indifference so that he can be entertained and take lessons from these stories.
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